Most people dream of that all-American family. You know that one — Husband/wife, 2.5 kids, dog, house, and a white picket fence. That was our dream, minus maybe the white picket fence (we prefer Disney theme). In 2014, we began living our dream, getting married and starting the adventure of being the Piners. Since we already had our dog, Kona, we were well under way of achieving our dream. But we wanted kids. Yep, our very own brood of Piners.
In time, we realized this was going to be nearly impossible for us.
Hi. We are Nic and Jen Piner and this is our story. In 2014 Jen was diagnosed with Factor V Leiden, MTHFR gene mutation, low protein S, Von Willebrands Disease, and anemia. Yea, we know — those were a lot of terms that you probably have never heard of. These are blood disorders that she has been seeing an Oncologist on a regular basis for. With these blood disorders, there is high risk of a miscarriage during the second trimester. In fact, if we were to get pregnant, there is a risk that Jen could die due to blood clotting — basically silent bombs.
After months of medical visits, many nights of tears, and doctors discouraging us from the idea of having a biological child we felt the calling of adoption. In our plans for our family, we had always thought that we would adopt but planned on doing so after having biological children. Sometimes God’s plans may look a little different from the ones we have for ourselves. Sometimes the journey to achieving dreams takes a different route than we might have originally thought. But we must still chase them.
So we embarked on our biggest adventure yet. The journey of adopting.
Did you know, it costs:
$1250 to apply and begin the process of adopting
$2,500 for Adoptive Parenting Classes
$7,000 in initial attorney fees
$3,000 for birth mom medical care
This is only the beginning of the costs associated with adopting.
Those seeking to adopt will also have to endure:
3 all-day home visits
Medical Evaluations and blood work
Even pet vet records
It takes a lot of money and a lot of time to adopt. It’s a truly grueling process.
For months we researched and spoke with adoption agencies and those who have adopted before. We’ve realized that it’s going to take a lot more to adopt than just deciding to. It’s been said, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Adoption is a very expensive process with all kinds of costs involved.
This adventure, this journey, this dream we embarked on couldn’t be done without the help of our friends, family, and local community.
Part 2 coming soon....
In the meantime, you can follow us on Instagram at @justchaseit.
Nic and Jen